Should we stop dating
But what is for certain is this: it’s ridiculous and will definitely (OK not definitely) ruin your life unless you use your brain about it. Because I just want us all to get along and have a nice time and you’re ruining it.If you’re someone who, like me, has been a massive tit about dating in the past: you have to read this. Being single can be lonely and it can be depressing, yes.The simplicity of it precluded all the worrying and waiting I usually do at the beginning of relationships: Will he text? How many times should I see him in the early weeks? It was exciting and romantic, but it was also…easy.With the Graceful Man, I didn’t wonder about any of that. Two days later, he left a sunflower and a bottle of wine outside my door. And this man was 24 to my 29, proving that grace is independent of age.From the old school Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus to the pick-up artist’s dream manual The Game, dating advice even pops up on bestseller lists.
There are no rules to dating, whatever people might have you believe.Still, I think that we all tend to make this business of trying to find love harder than it has to be.We over-analyze, we obsess, we nitpick, we get jealous.Some of it’s good, sensible advice (I’m fully behind any dating advice that tells guys not to send unsolicited dick pics), and some of it is so obvious as to be redundant.
But dating advice is so prevalent that simply ‘being yourself’ now seems like a horrific faux pas when you’re trying to attract a partner.
Because dating is hard, and with the festive season approaching you might be tempted to reach out to all sorts of toxic people. Red flags include: acting indifferently, refusing to make room in their life for you, being kind of rude, or doing odd or unexplained behaviours at you. I don’t know if you’ll be together when the inevitable robot war begins and you’ll get evaporated by lasers together. But also maybe they’re the worst and they’re gonna hurt your feelings and steal your VCR. Stop dating all the exact same person what are just dressed up in slightly different skin bags. So buckle up, celebrate your singularity and make the best of it.